Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

48. How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2)

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Could the very thing that feels like connection be part of a darker cycle of abuse?

This is a continuation of my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde from Ep. 47 where we explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and her experience of having sex used as a powerful tool for manipulation.

If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic relationship because of the physical intimacy that kept you hooked thinking, “I can’t leave because the sex is too good,” this conversation will resonate deeply and shed light on the emotional entanglements you may not even realize you're caught in.

In this episode you will:

  • Understand how narcissistic partners use sex to maintain control and create emotional dependency
  • Learn about the psychological impact of sex in abusive relationships and why it’s so difficult to break free
  • The surprising role that consent plays in relationships where sexual exploitation is disguised as intimacy

Don’t miss this eye-opening episode that could change the way you view intimacy and control in toxic relationships—click play now and reclaim your understanding of what real love and connection should feel like!

MENTIONED:

  • Part 1 of Hilary’s story is episode 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde: https://pod.fo/e/277854 
  • Hilary’s website: indwellingduluth.com
  • HIlary’s Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluth

Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde, MA, is the founder of Indwelling: A Place to Restore Connection. Hilary is a Sacred Counsel Guide that specializes in trauma healing and narcissistic abuse recovery. She sees clients one on one in private practice and also leads retreats, workshops, and offers trainings and certificate programs.

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In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.