Men Talking Mindfulness

Why Men Feel Like They’re Failing with John Elridge

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What does it really mean to be a man—and why are so many of us afraid to find out?

In this powerful episode, Jon & Will sit down with John Eldredge, author of Wild at Heart, to explore the core desires and wounds that shape every man's life. From the boyhood questions “Do you love me?” and “Do I have what it takes?” to the deep need for adventure, battle, mission, and love—John reveals how these longings define our masculine identity. We discuss how unaddressed childhood wounds and false selves hold men back, and how embracing vulnerability, purpose, and connection can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life. This conversation invites men to reclaim their warrior hearts, step into their true selves, and live with courage, passion, and love.

Find out more about John and buy his books here: https://wildatheart.org/

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction

03:02 - The Warrior Heart and Its Development

06:01 - The Importance of Adventure

08:58 - Understanding the Beauty to Rescue

12:02 - The Wounded Masculine Soul

15:03 - The Role of Courage in Healing

18:10 - The Poser and the False Self

20:59 - Faith and the Journey of Authenticity

37:39 - Stepping into Faith

39:02 - The 12-Step Recovery Movement

41:02 - Religion vs. Relationship with God

44:01 - Faith and Trust in Daily Life

46:05 - True Masculinity and Love

49:03 - The Journey of Initiation

52:53 - Finding Purpose and Connection

56:01 - The Importance of Community

01:00:04 - Reclaiming the Heart

01:09:06 - Experience Jesus, Really

01:14:01 - Closing Thoughts and Resources