Honey, We Need to Chat

RE-RELEASE 1: Thought I Was Helping! Why Strong Couples Still Miss the Mental Load

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Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.

Ever thought, "But I am helping!" — and still ended up in a fight?
This episode is for every couple who’s ever tripped over the invisible burden of mental load.

In this top re-release from Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the subtle but powerful dynamics that can derail even well-intentioned partners. Amy shares what mental load actually looks like (hint: it’s not just housework), and Blair reflects on what it felt like to realise he was missing it — despite thinking he was doing the right thing.

We talk about:

  • Why mental load feels so heavy (and so unseen)

  • How good guys can still miss the mark

  • Real scripts for starting a conversation without shame or blame

  • The invisible work of parenting, household management, and emotional planning

  • How to share the load without turning it into a scoreboard

Whether you’re the one carrying too much or just starting to notice the weight, this one’s worth a listen — and a share with your partner.

👉 If you’ve ever heard “just let me know how to help”… this is the episode.




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