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RE-RELEASE 2: Why Won’t You Talk to Me? | Understanding Stonewalling, Avoidance & Emotional Shutdowns in Relationships

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Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.


Does your partner shut down during conflict? Do conversations feel like hitting a brick wall, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone — and it's not hopeless.

In this powerful re-release of one of our most-shared episodes, we explore what’s really going on when one partner stonewalls, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations. We break down the psychology behind it, how to know if it's actually stonewalling (spoiler: it’s not always what you think), and what to do when the person you love just… won’t talk.

You'll hear:

  • An honest audio submission from a listener wrestling with this dynamic after 13 years of marriage

  • Real Reddit stories unpacking both sides of the silence

  • Personal stories from our own relationship (including a toilet disaster 🙈)

  • How to stop repeating this pattern — even if your partner won’t engage

We also cover Gottman’s Four Horsemen, healthy vs manipulative silence, and what actually helps you reconnect and repair. Whether you’re the one shutting down or the one left hanging, this episode will help you move forward with empathy, self-awareness, and actionable tools.

🛠️ Plus: Why defensiveness, shame, and stress might be the real culprits — and how to change the cycle before it breaks your bond.


Visit www.honeyweneedtochat for free check-in prompts, relationship reflection tools, and powerful starter phrases to reconnect with your partner.

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